Integrity is built around your word and character, that is, consistency in words and action. A man/woman of integrity has little or no character flaws and is honest. It entails developing good and admirable character traits. A person of integrity is almost perfect and flawless in his words and actions. Character is essentially “who we are”. A person’s character tells so much about an individual’s values, the manner in which he/she act in a certain circumstance/situation and how they are likely to lead their family. Character and integrity are somewhat intertwined; character is “who we are”, integrity is “what we do”.Integrity according to Thomas M. Cunningman, involves the three R’s: Respect for self, respect for others and responsibility for all your actions. But I recently discovered that integrity actually involves four R’s: Responsibility for self, respect for others, responsibility for all your actions and respect for God (Faithful, 2014). This is because the place of God in the development of true integrity cannot be developed outside God.

To reflect true integrity is to invest trust, to possess integrity is to command respect. A man/woman of integrity does not struggle for respect, he/she commands respect naturally and earn people’s trust cheaply and effortlessly too. Respect isn’t compelled; it’s earned.

The importance of character in any relationship cannot be over-emphasized.  Your character determines your worth; the worth any man will place on you as a lady will be determined by your character. So many ladies have missed out on very beautiful relationships due to their lack of character. It takes character to sustain a relationship. A man doesn’t necessarily have to go to bed with you before he can respect/value you; your character commands his respect with ease. Character is all it takes to keep a man, not beauty, sexual feats, money, broad chest, hazel eyes, figure eight, hot legs or even your excellent cooking skills. Your beauty might give you a man, but it actually takes character to keep that man. Without integrity you cannot build a successful relationship with your spouse.

Your character is unique (it’s the real you). It may not match with anybody else, so do not even try for it. Build it based strictly on your own aptitude and inner light within you. In the words of Reverend Billy Graham: “when wealth is lost, nothing is lost; when health is lost, something is lost; when character is lost, all is lost”.

Make it a conscious effort to work on your character consistently. Develop yourself on a daily basis, this is because personal development is crucial to the overall growth and well being of your relationship. When you’ve worked on your character, you won’t have to struggle to get a spouse, your spouse will be compelled (put under intense pressure) to locate you as a result of your impeccable character.

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