The greatest love you can ever experience is not the love of your spouse, parents or friends, but the love you actually have for you. Do you appreciate you?

As a woman, you have three relationships that must be balanced so as to achieve fulfillment.

First and foremost is her relationship with herself; a strong relationship with oneself is a necessary precursor to every other meaningful relationship in life. If as a woman, you do not have a firm relationship with yourself, you will recklessly pursue external relationships in the hopes of achieving internal peace. You will try to love others in a desperate need to find in them what you must find within yourself.

The woman who does not love herself becomes very thirsty and desperate for love that she rushes into love “half-dressed” and ill prepared too. Many women have actually attained great achievements in all other aspects, only to realise to their amazement that something is missing somewhere. What’s actually missing is the dire need for a relationship with the Lord. He alone provides a spiritual fortification that anchors the soul and becomes the foundation on which everything else is able to stand.

If a woman feels like a lady and is able to celebrate herself, she will no doubt attract into her life people who truly reflect her own opinion of herself. Learning how to love yourself, how to embrace yourself is a key ingredient of happiness in life. Self love is at the very core of well-being, joy, self-empowerment and our ability to enjoy the kind of life we’ve actually envisaged. Even if you had everything else in your life, exactly the way you wanted it, you wouldn’t be able to enjoy it if you weren’t in love with yourself.

Besides this, every relationship you ever have with someone else mirrors one or more aspects of the relationship you have with yourself. One of the most difficult thing to achieve in life is the ability to be motivated by ourselves; if we are going to be effective individuals, we must strive to develop the ability to embrace ourselves. True love actually emanates from within. People who have low self-esteem are too obsessive to enjoy others. They need others to survive, to stand and that need is compulsive and draining.

It is nearly impossible to find someone to genuinely appreciate you as a person if you do not allow them to see you as a settled, stabilized force in the earth. The truth is, you actually train others how to treat you by how you treat yourself. We can love others with no more wholeness than that with which we love ourselves. We tend to seek from others the kind of love and affirmation that must come from within.

If as a woman, your relationship is not fortified with her Lord and with herself, you will enter into a relationship with a man for the wrong reason. If you cannot value your own existence and presence, you will eventually have difficulty relating well to others. As a single lady, you  have ample time to develop true spirituality, you are not encumbered with the concerns of children and mate.

You have the time to strengthen yourself on several different levels. She has the time to strengthen her economy, her spirituality and above all, her personality. You need to strengthen every area of your life , so that when the man finally comes, you’ll be able to clearly discern whether you’re truly in love or in need. Don’t forget the fact that you can only be single once, so make good use of this very sensitive period or phase of your life.

You need to strive to know yourself more on a daily basis, it is very dangerous to allow others to know you better than you know yourself. When we do not value ourselves, we tend to attract people who support that devalued image. Don’t forget that we train people how to treat us by how we treat ourselves.

Try as much as possible to establish some solidarity financially, mentally and spiritually. Then, when and if we add the harmonious thrust of a male counterpart, he is enriched by your contribution and you by his, without being a burden that he carries until he is exhausted. The goal is ultimately a state of wholeness, that wholeness cannot be reached if you are not truly and sincerely in love with you.

No man can love you as much as you love you. The greatest love ever is loving oneself. Do you love you? How much do u truly love you? This yuletide season, don’t wait for any man to take you out, take yourself out, give yourself a treat, make yourself feel good, don’t wait for any man to do that for you.

You need to know yourself and your Lord before you can enter into a true relationship, but a relationship is hollow if you don’t really know you. When you’re not so thirsty for love, you make better decisions, so learn to embrace the real you from today.

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